People have been living in fear for years now, and fear based decision making is the literal path to the underlying condition of self destruction.
For anyone who hasn’t done their own work on fear based decision making… Fear will the most common motivating factor right now because it has been cursing through us for years now.
It starts off fun, like intentional fear maybe scary movies or a roller coaster experience those are examples of where we play with fear, we enjoy the thrill of the controlled hormone thrill. Same happens with addictions. It always starts off as a controlled coping strategy. Fear is supposed to be a short term coping strategy, where the emotion spikes the hormones required for fight of flight survival. Same as the thrill of a rollercoaster, and an accurate analogy of the hormonal cascade.
But what happens when the fear is constant and unresolved is that our bodies adapt to attempt at evolution. Our cells adapt to the hormones that are available and trigger cascades of functions that over stimulate the central nervous system.
This is great for survival… but not so great for maintaining longevity… it’s like running an old engine dry and dirty nothing is going to flow properly and too much pressure will blow a freaking gasket!
When you run your system on fear based decision making you are riding dirty!
Any fear based decision you make will drive you closer to rock bottom. Trust me. I took the tour!
It is true that unless you do some self observation you will stay stuck in the cycle of fear.
Fear keeps you in what in ignorance, refusing to face it.
Fear, and the things we do that are rooted from fear are hidden in plain sight when we are unaware.
The trifecta that occurs between fear, shame and judgment (perceived, or actual) have the ability to keep you frozen in apathy as a vicious cycle. The motivation killers.
Fear and shame have been traditional driving factors they go hand in hand because there is a real visceral fear about being shamed. To the point where people will take actions that go against their own values to avoid being shamed.
The old faithful fear has been used to keep control for generations.
Parents use it.
Systems and society and religion use it.
Governments use it.
We learn to use it and to avoid it at all costs.
If you take a moment to observe your bloodline for a moment, as it applies to fear you can observe where your fears may have come from.
What do you fear? It’s probably a driving factor.
If you grew up poor- you might fear a lack of abundance… and with that keep yourself busting your ass to keep up your abundance; perhaps to the detriment of your close relationships?
If you were raised in a household that was all stuck on survival mode, you may be learning how to break the trauma cycle for the fear that your children will have to repeat the same.
Fear is alive in all of us, it is what we learn to do with that fear and how we respond to it that matters the most.
It is common that we inherit the fears of our caregivers by way of nurture and adaptation. As we look more deeply into the history of our country we can see pretty clearly that we have been living with underlying fear for centuries. As we uncover the truth about the Residential schools, and the mandates it is clear that the structures and the societies built around them have always been fear based.
It’s easy to push people around with their own fears, if you understand them, it’s basic psychology.
Traditionally fear has been used to manipulate and control situations and even people.
Religion uses fear.
Structures and systems use fear.
Parents and guardians use fear.
We’ve adapted to buy in to the fear, so as to avoid the shame of non conformity.
Fear helps us form opinions and judgements of others and stops us from doing what we know is right.
If you have a strong opinion about what someone else is or isn’t doing right now I urge you to sit down and stop projecting your fears onto others; maybe take the time to reflect on your fears and solve them for yourself!
As I approach my 4th year of full time healing and we approach the 3rd year of the dumpster fire that is navigating this global pandemic.
Now would be a good time for everyone to do a fear based decision making check for themselves. Figure out where they are not truly living because of fear. Talk to someone, make the changes. There’s life behind the fear!
My journey afforded me the advantage of learning how to navigate my fear based decision making, and alter it for post traumatic growth.
In order to move through fear, you have to be willing to stare it in the face and take your power back from it.
If you have shifted your ways of living because of fear that has impacted your ability to show up in your life like you desire to, it’s the perfect time to pause. Find the fear, and get some help moving through it.
Living in a constant state of fear, which is also known as anxiety keeps your body and neuropathways addicted to the hormones that anxiety creates.
The decision to let go of your fear is a courageous one to make! Ask for help if you reach your limit.
Fear doesn’t get to consume me anymore, and that’s post traumatic growth!